Monday, November 16, 2009

Our whole family


(You can find the beginning of our adoption story here.)

Part 17

When Talitha arrived, only Abraham and Barnabas were living at home. Karsten and his new wife, Shelly, lived in Boston. Benjamin was in Georgia.

So it was a sweet time a couple of weeks later when all us were together for the first time. That called for a photo.

Ah yes. Family group photos. My children roll their eyes when I say, "Hey! We're all here. Let's . . ." They interrupt, with less enthusiasm,". . . take a picture."

Those photos become more precious to me now that all our sons are married and scattered. The times when we're all in the same place at the same time become more and more rare.

Perhaps we don't recognize the full value of family photos until we have lost one of those family members. I had no way to know, for example, in 1970 that the snapshots during a picnic with my family were the last images of my 16-year-old brother, Benjamin. He died a few months later in a car crash.

Then, two years ago, we lost our granddaughter Felicity. She was stillborn and there never will be a photo of her being enfolded by all of us. So now our whole-family photos will never be completely whole.

Each photo is a record, a reminder, of the changes in a family. I'm thankful that many changes are happy ones. Right now, there are 2 grandchildren who aren't yet with us in a whole-family photo.

Well, here's our whole family the first time we were all together with Talitha Ruth.

I think this is a good place to end this series. But what do you think about a new series? The new one would be about becoming a multi-racial family (and maybe a little about adjusting to having a girl).

20 comments:

Sunny Ellis said...

Yes, Please. For my own selfish reasons.

Dana said...

That sounds GREAT! I've loved this series a lot. My husband and I have a heart for adoption but not the budget for it at the moment. We also live as missionaries in Tanzania and it's hard to adopt here but not impossible. We've looked into it and are open to the idea. The one thing that scares us the most is the racial aspect mainly in how the child will feel growing up "the only one" in the family black while we're all white. So hearing someone's experience with this would be helpful. :)

crystal said...

God has been moving so many of us into multi-racial families, I would love to hear some of the victories, challenges & experienced from a mother & sibling perspective! This series has been something I have looked forward to each morning, thank you for sharing your family an heart with us!

Kari said...

I have enjoyed this series so much! Thank you for sharing. A follow up series would be great... I say go for it!

Anonymous said...

yes please!

mariexpx said...

Another enthusiastic vote for YES! I have so enjoyed reading your adoption story! We are praying about starting to Fost-Adopt soon and the need here in CA is for families who are open to children with mixed ethnic backgrounds. Any help/suggestions/wisdom you have to impart on the topic would be thankfully received :-)

leslie said...

I would love to hear more on having a multi-racial family

mercygraceword said...

Yes please, I can hardly wait!

Tet said...

I would love a follow-up series! My husband and I just started our family by adopting our first son, Levi, who is black. We're planning to continue adopting transracially, so we love to hear personal stories of families who are farther along the journey! I have loved reading your adoption story.

Monica said...

How can we do anything but respond by pursuing adoption...with no preconceived expectations. Thank you.

Brad & Carrie said...

I would also love it! We have 5 kids and live in China. We just brought home our sweet baby girl from Ethiopia, about 4 months ago. We've got so many cultures happening in our family, we'd love to hear your perspective on it. Share away!

miriam said...

I would love to hear that new series!

Just today my husband and I officially began the process of adopting two children from Rwanda!

And tonight I read your entire adoption story.

It was such an encouragement to my heart and a confirmation from the Lord that beginning our family through transracial and international adoption is honoring to Him and reflective of the Gospel.

Thank you so much.

Angela said...

Please, please! I can't wait to read it!

Julie said...

I feel that bittersweet feeling whenever we take a family photo knowing that without our son Evan, we will never have a "complete" portrait.
Thanks so much for sharing your story with us...Can't wait for a new series!

jadams said...

Noel, I love this series! Thank you. I couldn't help but smile when reading your post about presenting the case to John in writing. Your argument about the ripple effect proved true in our case. We have are currently in the process of Ethiopian adoption & your story was, I believe, the main "seed" which God used to start it. Blessings, Jeff.

p.s. my wife is "on fire" about the process & is blogging about it at: http://blissandbumps.blogspot.com/

Denny and Bonnie said...

We have loved reading about your journey towards, and through, adoption. We say "Yes" for a series on your new ideas. God has gifted you in a way that your writing touches people deeply and it seems there are many who are hungry for some advice on the struggles and joys of adoption, especially inter-racially.

God's grace has been evident in your family with the addition of Talitha.

Sarah Mae said...
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Sarah Mae said...

Eeek - can you delete my last comment, it has my families blog on it and I didn't mean to link to that one! I'm so sorry - my public blog is http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com

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Melissa May said...

Yes please! : ) A new series would be great. We're another multi-cultural family and would love to hear what you've learned, experienced, etc. I'd also love to hear from Talitha if she wants to add anything to the story!

Karly said...

My face is soaking wet with tears from reading your adoption story. Praise God for your example and the legacy you are leaving for your brothers and sisters in Christ! I truly hope you will write more.
We will be foster-adopting soon (Lord willing) and I just can't thank you enough for reaffirming for me that we don't have to be totally "qualified" in the world's eyes to adopt. God is more than qualified to equip us when He calls us.